Mon, Oct. 24th, 2005, 04:03 pm
traylo: Some long due ranting....
Hey all! I have been in this community for a long time now.. but this is my first post. Sorry if it runs a little long.
I am engaged to a wonderful man named Nick.. I love him to death. I even love his Dad to death. However, I am not the biggest fan of his sister.. and I'm liking his mother less and less every day.
My SIL is the most self-centered, greedy, rude, selfish person I have ever met. She plays the victim all the time to her mother to get my MIL against me as well. "Nick never comes to see me cause Traci won't let him" WTF? He's a grown man, I let him do whatever he wants. I hate going to visit my SIL b/c all she EVER does is rag on my fiance to bring him down. She has two children and she refers to him as "Uncle Dumb Ass" to them. She is seriously such a two faced bitch!... To make things even better.. guess where my SIL, her boyfriend and their 2 kids live? ACROSS THE STREET from us!! I used to try to be nice to her, thinking maybe one day she would decide not to hate me, but I have given up. Every time I try to be nice it always comes back to bite me in the ass.
Now for the MIL. I used to like her alot. She seemed really sweet. That is until the SIL moved in across the street from us. Now my distaste for MIL is growing. She never comes to see us anymore when she comes to town.. she always just pokes her head in to say hi, then shes straight over to SIL's. Which, I understand that SIL has kids and we don't...but Nick IS her child!!! You'd think shed stop by to chat once in a while whenever she's in town. One night MIL, SIL, SIL'd boyfriend and 2 kids were all over at Nick and My house to have dinner.. and I walked in MY kitchen and caught MIL & SIL talking crap about me. It hurt me so much that they would do that in my own house. I have been nothing but nice to both of them!! Then whenever Nick commented that he doesn't like how SIL's boyfriend spends all their money on video games and movies and won't let SIL buy the kids new shoes... MIL jumped down Nick's throat for talking badly about SIL's boyfriend. So she'll talk crap about me in my own house.. but no one can say ANYTHING bad about SIL's Boyfriend.... Then comes the icing on the cake... this last time she was down.. MIL & I were having a chat about the wedding and such, when she starts on this rant about how perfect SIL is and how people always liked Nick more than her (which isn't hard to understand) so she admitted that she treats SIL better than Nick to compensate for it. OOOHHHH that pisses me off more than anything. I'd love to say something to her.. but I don't know what or how!! I mean, it sucks that people didn't like SIL, but that is NO reason to treat Nick unfairly to overcompensate. UUGH!!!
Any advice on what I should do to deal with these crazy women would be appreciated!! :)
Mon, Oct. 24th, 2005 02:42 pm (UTC)
Kids do change things a lot. My parents and in-laws are more interested in seeing my son than me or my husband. That's ok with be because 1) I don't mind him being the center of attention (it takes it off both the good and the bad stuff about the adults) and 2) I don't have to deal with MIL as much because she hardly notices if I'm there or not. I wouldn't take it too personally that she'd rather see your SIL's kids than you guys. All grandparents get like that when grandbaby's come into the picture :)
I'd have kicked the bitches out of my house for talking badly about me. I know my MIL talks shit about me. But she knows not to do it in my house because she knows I won't put up with it. She does this with my SIL's husband too, in front of their 2 boys. I've flat out told her that I don't care what she says about me as long as she doesn't do it in front of my son (it can take authority away from the parents in the eyes of the child). If I find out she's done this, she will not ever see him alone again. My husband was pissed, but tough shit. I like to nip things in the bud before they start.
It sounds like you need to sit down and have a talk with her. Tell her it hurt you when she and your SIL were talking badly about you. Tell her you used to like her and have a lot more respect for her before that. And tell her it was very disrespectful of you for her to do that in your own house. I'd tell also tell her that you won't allow that kind of negativity in your house again, about anyone in the family not just you. I told my MIL that it's our house rule that we don't talk badly about family in our home and it will not be tolerated. With any of your in-laws, you need to show them that you have a spine and won't be walked all over. You don't have to be a bitch about it though. This is a common problem that younger couples have, families wanting to run their lives. Until you prove that you aren't children any more, it's not going to stop.
Mon, Oct. 24th, 2005 02:47 pm (UTC)
tell her "Look you cunt bitch, Your son asked me to marry him so that means I will own him the minute he says I do. You can either play nice or fold your deck and walk. I don't take this shit from anyone and I will be damned if I am going to take it from you. Get your jead on straight and see that coming into my house is a priveldge not a right and if you ever want to see what kind of cute grand babies your son will have for you then you better be nice to me because mom's always come before grandmas
Thats just me personally, I am normally really nice but I HATE my mother in law so I have a thing against all of them. I don't get why all moms can't be like mine in that department, supportive not intrusive.
Trust me you don't want your MIL over all the time even when she is in town. MIL's suck ass. The day you marry this ladies son she's going to turn the charm on til you pop a kid out then you will dissapear as she tries to butt her way into your little families life and push you out of the picture. You are a baby vessel for her grandkids that's it.
Tue, Oct. 25th, 2005 10:15 am (UTC)
I agree to what ( Karlicookie ) had to say... I think she's right
I had the MIL and SIL from hell!!! They were///are the worse than the devil these bitches did everything to try and break up me and my now husband...
I had to fight to the death for my husband and I won yah it had a price but it was a price I was willing to pay....
My MIL is so psycho that the first time she found out that I was pregnant her exact words were "How could I be so irresponsible".... I was like hello dumb bitch it takes two. I was happy but my mil and sil stomped on my happiness.... they were really happy that I had a miscarriage....
Actually I'm quiet surprised that those two psychos have not shown their ugly heads around my journal because they read everything I write and they always feel a need to get their two cents in... take cheap shots where ever they can.
Actually I ended up having a big fight with them a month after my wedding and all forms of contact were cut off with them... I'm glad my husband and I are quiet happy and our relationship is better than ever.
Tue, Oct. 25th, 2005 01:11 pm (UTC)
wow only a month after you got married!!! LUCKY LUCKY I actually forgave my MIL after screaming at me the day after birth about how I ws going to kill my baby and then some other stuff too, I frogave her, then she bails her son out of jail after me and him got in a fgight telling me she wouldn't and I forgave her, she paid off al his drug dealers while I was breaking his addiction and I forgave her... so after all that we moved in with her(right after he got bailed out of jail, I seriously thought she might be able to help me keep him in check) What I got was her making sure that I lost every job I tried to get by conviently making it impossible for me to have a decent babysitter, or telling my husband it's ok to work late even if it means I won't get to work on time and it's also ok not to call because *his job is soooo much more important than mine* when I decided to NOT work at ALL because it was to embarrassing constantly losing jobs because of those reasons I ended up cleaning there house spotless daily and I NEVER got a thank you.... NOW THAT I DID NOT FORGIVE. I do not wash your whoel families underwear track marks and all and still get yelled at if the DOG does something. NO NO NO.
There was more to it like her boss being a twisted politician fucking over my hometown and her coming home everyday discussing it with me in her *very rich and spoiled* person type of way... Oh yeah and she also promised me 1,000 if she could do our taxes(I know it sounds weird) then she conviently forgot all about the 1,000 right when I needed it to go to nail school while my lil sister was out of school for the summer.
Stupid MIL bitch. I haven't had to see her ugly face in months and it's made my life MUCH better. I called her a "fucking lying cunt" to her face! I called his dad a mean asshole too, that guy I am not even goign to start on, I stopped looking him in the eye two years ago because of the evil behind them
Tue, Oct. 25th, 2005 04:13 pm (UTC)
OH I KNOW!!!! My SIL told my fiance, with me sitting right next to him, that when we do get pregnant and she finds out, she is "just going to roll her eyes". I was like.. WTF????
Tue, Oct. 25th, 2005 07:16 pm (UTC)
My SIL has a dead journal and when she found out that I had a miscarriage she wrote " Thank god you two are not having a child because you guys would stab it to death with a screw driver"
I was like WTF!!!!!!
What a bitch
She insulted me the day before my wedding and the day of my wedding.... I almost didn't go through with my wedding because of all the bull
and to think that all of this crap with those people has been going on for five years.....
but at least they are not in our life anymore... and I am happy that those people will never know my children.
I'm still finding it hard to get over everything that I have gone through...
How does one just let go and move on.... I'm still pissed!!!
Wed, Nov. 9th, 2005 10:53 pm (UTC)
can I add you. I am a huge Gwen fan too. I also have BITCH in laws. If there is anything else you want to know about me before you decide let me know.... I do post ALOT so if you don't liek people who post ALOT then I am not a good person to add =P
Mon, Nov. 14th, 2005 06:54 am (UTC)
OMG you should meet my MIL i could kill her some days.
I'd tell your MIL to shut up or dont come over if she doens't have naything nice to say.
I would say "look i know you dont like me - but your son has asked me to marry him and i've said yes - accept that and if you dont have anything nice to say please dont come over cause your son doesn't need this"
Maybe you should talk to your fiance and see how he feels about moving - or do the same speak to your SIL and put her in her place.
Sun, Nov. 27th, 2005 03:49 pm (UTC)
sorry no advice to offer you! but i would be glad that the mil doesn't come to visit!
and i bet that things with the sil will only get worse! you are the one getting married...and she is still just a single mother! why doesn't that "wonderful boyfriend" make an honest woman of her? she is probabably just jealous that your man is actually making a commitment with you.
Wed, Mar. 2nd, 2011 06:00 pm (UTC)
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