Hey all! I have been in this community for a long time now.. but this is my first post. Sorry if it runs a little long.
I am engaged to a wonderful man named Nick.. I love him to death. I even love his Dad to death. However, I am not the biggest fan of his sister.. and I'm liking his mother less and less every day.
My SIL is the most self-centered, greedy, rude, selfish person I have ever met. She plays the victim all the time to her mother to get my MIL against me as well. "Nick never comes to see me cause Traci won't let him" WTF? He's a grown man, I let him do whatever he wants. I hate going to visit my SIL b/c all she EVER does is rag on my fiance to bring him down. She has two children and she refers to him as "Uncle Dumb Ass" to them. She is seriously such a two faced bitch!... To make things even better.. guess where my SIL, her boyfriend and their 2 kids live? ACROSS THE STREET from us!! I used to try to be nice to her, thinking maybe one day she would decide not to hate me, but I have given up. Every time I try to be nice it always comes back to bite me in the ass.
Now for the MIL. I used to like her alot. She seemed really sweet. That is until the SIL moved in across the street from us. Now my distaste for MIL is growing. She never comes to see us anymore when she comes to town.. she always just pokes her head in to say hi, then shes straight over to SIL's. Which, I understand that SIL has kids and we don't...but Nick IS her child!!! You'd think shed stop by to chat once in a while whenever she's in town. One night MIL, SIL, SIL'd boyfriend and 2 kids were all over at Nick and My house to have dinner.. and I walked in MY kitchen and caught MIL & SIL talking crap about me. It hurt me so much that they would do that in my own house. I have been nothing but nice to both of them!! Then whenever Nick commented that he doesn't like how SIL's boyfriend spends all their money on video games and movies and won't let SIL buy the kids new shoes... MIL jumped down Nick's throat for talking badly about SIL's boyfriend. So she'll talk crap about me in my own house.. but no one can say ANYTHING bad about SIL's Boyfriend.... Then comes the icing on the cake... this last time she was down.. MIL & I were having a chat about the wedding and such, when she starts on this rant about how perfect SIL is and how people always liked Nick more than her (which isn't hard to understand) so she admitted that she treats SIL better than Nick to compensate for it. OOOHHHH that pisses me off more than anything. I'd love to say something to her.. but I don't know what or how!! I mean, it sucks that people didn't like SIL, but that is NO reason to treat Nick unfairly to overcompensate. UUGH!!!
Any advice on what I should do to deal with these crazy women would be appreciated!! :)